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The Real Deal

by Beverly Sullivant--NJ Wedding Minister on 10/06/11

When Barbara was searching for an officiant, she used the Internet and found me. We had a conversation on the phone and agreed on a price. We exchanged a couple of e-mail messages. When it came time to committing to booking me, Barbara said that her fiancé wanted to know if I was real.

I told her that his question reminded me of the story of The Velveteen Rabbit, which is a children's book by Margery Williams. It's the story of how a toy rabbit becomes a real rabbit when it is loved by the child that owns it.Here's the excerpt I read at weddings:

"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery gate, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but Really loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get all loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."

Barbara and Ray are a very Real couple. They have both been loved for a long time by many family members and friends, most of whom were present at the ceremony. There hair has not been loved off and there eyes have not dropped out, but they are loved, truly, nonetheless. May their married love provide them with the chance to be loved even more.

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